Chapters on the child's experience and family dynamics create a backdrop for understanding the pain and price of child molestation as well as some of the variables that can set the stage for abuse to occur. Chapters on being an adult survivor demonstrate the long term impact of sexual abuse.

"Family is the place we first learn about relationships, about love, and what to expect from those who take care of us. Family is where we should be safest. If we aren't safe there, if this is the "best"' we can expect, we wonder what the rest of the world will offer." (from Chapter Five: Honey I'm Cold, Put on a Sweater).

"The impact of being molested does not stop when the molestation stops. The impact varies from person to person and from day to day. Triggered by internal and external sights, sounds, smells, feelings and events, many…" (from Chapter Seven: From the Frying Pan into the Fire - on Being an Adult Survivor)
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Rae Mandela
 
 
Adult "Survivors who are healing are not just takers, not just depositories for kindness. They are people whose work to heal forces a deepening of who they are. That depth is a gift to the community. Their depth of character and experience can be shared and often is, just by virtue of their being who they are. Communities benefit from survivors because they have survived - not despite the fact." (from the Introduction).